If you want to know if your spouse is having an affair, forget the whole “investigate” approach. It will be a waste of time and money. Instead, let’s discuss the signs your spouse is cheating:
If your spouse has been cheating on you for a while now, the first thing to do is ask them. They will almost definitely be upset but they should not deny it. If they say they are not having an affair, leave them alone and let them come to their own conclusion. Don’t ask any more questions. Don’t get involved in the drama or even try to make it seem like innocent fun . . . because it isn’t . . .
What’s important is that you communicate with your wife/husband as honestly as possible because there are certain guaranteed signs that indicate that this person may have been cheating on you.
Reading cheating spouse text messages
Here’s a simple little test you can do to find out if your spouse is cheating on you.
Nowadays, cheating is about communication. You can tell if a person is cheating on you by looking at their messages on your phone, messenger, or social media. You might want to find out what they do on Facebook; or maybe they use Instagram or Snapchat; and wherever in the world they talk about their day or their life, it will tell you something about them and what they are up to. Or are already cheating on you…
Here are some tips on how to check your spouse’s text messages for free:
1) Use spy apps for Android or iPhone (such as Cocospy, Flexispy and others).
2) Pick up/retrieve your spouse’s phone password and look for signs of cheating while your spouse is asleep.
3) Ask to call someone from your spouse’s message, and in the meantime, read all available messages.
Ultimately, ask yourself, does he/she check his/her phone every time he/she leaves? (Or every time he/she comes home?) The answer to this question will tell you if your wife or husband is having an affair with someone else. If the answer is yes, then despite the fact that spouses are supposed to be faithful and monogamous (whatever that means), there is something wrong in the marriage.
Top way to catch a cheating spouse
If you want to check your spouse’s text messages for paid, there’s a couple of things you can do. This one is more technical and works well.
Here are the steps:
- Download the app called “TextMate” from the iTunes App Store (it costs $2). This app will let you read or write your spouse’s texts without seeing or hearing them. You have to take precautions though: if your spouse has deleted all their texts, you have to be careful about what you’re doing to avoid being traced by the app, and also about what happens if you delete all messages too.
- Install TextMate on your iPhone or iPad and open it up (tap on the icon at the top right of the page). After that, go through each message in turn and highlight any one you want (so they won’t be visible) then hit Delete (careful not to delete anything important).
- Tap Send Message on your iPhone or iPad and send it off to someone else who may be interested in reading/writing/deleting their own text messages at some point in time. It’s as easy as that!
How to prevent infidelity in your relationship
You ask yourself these questions all the time. And while these are things we are all guilty of at one point or another, we know how to avoid them:
Spend less time looking at those exes. Pay more attention to the current one. Let go of that ring. It was never really meant to be yours. Don’t let one night stand ruin your marriage. Find someone who is good enough for you and stick together… no matter what anyone says about them!